Thursday, January 14, 2010
Your Best Friend
Your spouse is your closest friend
"A person is upon the Deen (religion) of his khaleel (close friend), so look to whom you befriend." [Abu Dawud & Tirmidhee]
The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that: it is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, "And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions) of your own nature ..." (Surah Al Nahl 16:72)
Allah says in Sura Noor verse 26 bad women for bad men and or bad men for bad women. good women for good men and good men for good women , such (good people) are innocent of (each and every) bad statement which they (people) say (about them) , for them is Forgiveness, and Rizqun Kareem (generous provision i.e.Paradise).
So be careful while choosing your spouse.
Good companionship, choosing and having good companions is extremely important for many reasons and from many aspects.Mankind cannot live alone; every individual must live and interact with others.
For two people to be close friends, they necessarily share similar habits and beliefs, and they inevitable lead a similar lifestyle; therefore, we should give serious consideration before forming a close friendship with someone else. If you are satisfied with a person's religion and manners, befriend him; otherwise, don't, for traits and habits and patterns of thinking are all contagious.
The Prophet (saas) mentioned an analogy that clarifies the influence of both a good and evil companion: "The examples of a righteous and evil companion are that of a carrier of Al-Musk (Perfume) and a blower of the bellows. As for the carrier of perfume, he will either give to you as a gift, or you will buy from him, or you will find a good smell emanating from him. As for the blower of the bellows, either he will burn your garment or you will find a vile smell (emanating from him).''
The evil companion, whom we must avoid, is either an innovator (in the religion) or an evildoer.1) Related by Abu Daawood (4833), and Al-Albaanee ruled that it is Hasan. Ahmad (7968) and At-Tirmidhee (2378) related it as well. 2) Related by Bukhaaree (5534), Muslim (2628), and Ahmad (19127)
Those people who you sit with and make your friends are inevitably going to fall into one of two categories. Either they are going to be good individuals - who guide and encourage you towards what is good, and help you to accomplish that which Allah has ordered, or they are going to be bad - encouraging you to do what is pleasing to Shaytaan, that which misleads you and leads you to the Hell-Fire.
If you choose a good and pious spouse for you then it is likely that you will remain good with him/her and your character will further improve over time. Insha Allah. The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Qur'anic verse which says:
Allah says: ... They (wives) Are A Dress For You And You Are A Dress To Them ... Qur'an [2 : 187]
Consider This In Conjunction With The Following Verse:... The Best Dress Is The Dress Of Taqwa
Taqwa(God-Consciousness-Good Character-Love And Fear Of Allah) ...
The verse says that a husband and wife are Dress for each other… that is The Relation of Husband and Wife is similar to Your Body and Your Dress . when the Dress is Comfortable and Good-looking it magnifies your Beauty. Just as Dress are for Protection, comfort, show and cover up the Hidden Parts of Body for human beings, Allah expects husbands and wives to be clothing for one another Indeed, spouses are like garments (dress) to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey.
There is another verse that describes this amazing relationship between spouse Allah says in Quran: "Among His Signs Is That He Created Companion ( Mate, Spouse) For You From Among Yourself, So That You May Find Tranquility With Them, And (He) Set Love And Mery Between You. Surely In This Are Signs For People Who Give Thought" Surah Ar-Rum, 21 (30:21).
The Importance of a good wife to her husband (and of course vice versa) is Great to Allah (SWT). Nothing can illustrate the point better than the Qur'anic statement which describes the righteous people as those who pray: "Rabba-na hab la-na min azwaji-na wa dhuriyyati-na qurrata a'yunin wa aj'al-na li al muttaqin imama" "Our Lord! give us spouse and children who will be the joy of our eyes, and make us Leaders of the Righteous” Sura 25-Al-Furqan Verse 74 Amen