Sunday, April 4, 2010
Dua for Marriage
Dua for Marriage , Allah says:
"Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)." [Surah al-Imran; 3:159]
Dua is the best form of worship.
Many times, we wonder why our Du’ãs are not answered. It is so simply because we do not put our faith in the power of Allãh. Instead, we turn to the world around us for help and guidance, not realising that all help can only come through the Will and Power of Allãh alone.
Allah also says in Quran And when My slaves (people) ask you (O Muhammad SAW) concerning Me, then (answer them), I am indeed near to them. I respond to the invocations of the supplicant (Allah answers prayers) when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor) .
So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led aright (they would come to right path). Sura 2-verse 186
Du'a(prayer) of istikharah
The word istikharah means asking (seeking)good which is derived from the word kher means "Good". Istikhara is to seek guidance from Allah when one is faced with a problem to which no solution is apparent. To ask Allah SWT to guide you to the path best for you concerning an affair with two Halal options..
Whenever a person is faced with a difficult problem, or becomes hesitant in making a decision and his/her knowledge of the matter is insufficient to guide them then after seeking advice from trusted friends and family, one should turn to Allah SWT and beseech His grace.
One should willingly and with an open heart and mind supplicate for divine guidance and ask for direction so that the problem is solved in one's own best interest.
The Dua at such an occasion is called Istikhara Feeling Confused? ... Undecided? Follow this proven recipe for success...it works every time!
It is natural that in our day-to-day affairs Muslims are confronted with important issues requiring decision making. This is sometimes accompanied by much thinking, anxiety and worry before one is able to decide one way or another, if at all!
It is in regard to these types of situations that the Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) recommended a voluntary prayer for a person to employ which will enable them to seek from Allah (SWT) (the best decider) guidance in reaching the proper decision over a particular matter.
This is a prayer known in Arabic as Salatul-Isstikhara and its importance is such that Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) used to teach his companions about it the same way he used to teach them the verses of the Holy Qur'an. The companion Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) said that the Prophet (pbuh) used to strongly encourage us to practice Isstikhara for all our affairs.
The manner of performing this prayer is that the person comes up with a voluntary prayer of two rakaats (units) at anytime during the day or night. Upon completing this the person then recites a private supplication in which he/she seeks the guidance of Allah (swt).
This goes as follows: "ALLAHUMMA INNI ASTAKHYIRUKA BI'ILMIKA WA ASTAQDIRUKA BI QUDRATIKA WA AS-ALUKA MIN FADHLKA-AL-AZIM, FA INNAKA TAQDIRU WALAA AQDIRU WATA'LAMU WALAA A'LAMU, WA ANTA 'ALLAMUL-QUYYUB. ALLAHUUMA IN KUNTA TA'LAMU ANNA HADHAL-AMRA...
(Here the person makes mention of the matter for which guidance is sought, i.e., "should I move, take that job, marry her, etc.") ...
KHEIRUN LEE FII DINII WAMA'AASHII WA'AAQIBATA AMRII FAQDURHU LII, WA YASSIR-HU LII THUMMA BAARIK LII FIIHI, WAIN KUNTA TA' LAMU ANNA HADHAL-AMRA...
(also at this point the person makes mention of the matter for which guidance is sought)
...SHARRUN LEE FII DINII WA MA'AASHII WA'AAQIBATA AMRII, FASRIFHU 'ANNII WASRIFNII 'ANHU WAQDUR LEE AL-KEYRA HEYTHU KANA THUMMA ARDHINI BIHII."
Which means: "O Lord, I seek your guidance, through Your knowledge and power; and I ask You of Your great bounties; for You decree and I do not decree; and You know and I know not; You are the Knower of invisible things. O Lord, if You know that this matter (here the person makes mention of the matter for which guidance is sought, i.e., "should I move, take that job, marry her, etc."), is of benefit to me in my religion, in my livelihood and in its outcome, decide it for me and make it easy for me and then bless it for me. And if You know that this matter (here again the person makes mention of the matter for which guidance is sought) is bad for me in my religion, in my livelihood, and in its outcome, turn it from me and divert me from it and decree good for me wherever it may be and make me pleased with it."
Having sought Allah's guidance as above, the person then resumes his/her routine affairs and waits for the due response from Allah. This can appear to the person by way of the feeling you have in your heart about the matter of either confidence or further indecision.
Thus, when you feel in your heart a sense of vigor, optimism or confidence about the intended undertaking, you may construe this as a positive response from Allah (swt) and may accordingly proceed forward with the intended undertaking. If, on the other hand, the opposite is true and your sense of doubt or worries have not cleared, then you may want to avoid the proposed undertaking as it could mean a bad outcome.
Allah (swt) says: "...It is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye may love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth and ye know not." (Qur'an 2:216)
Indeed the essence of this prayer is to test someone's trust in Allah, hence, the need to abide by the guidance of Allah whether it means pursuing or abandoning the intended undertaking.
Allah also says: "...and if anyone puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him. For verily Allah surely accomplishes His purpose: Verily, for all things has Allah appointed a due proportion." (Qur'an 65:3)
The Importance of a good wife to her husband (and of course vice versa) is Great to Allah (SWT). Nothing can illustrate the point better than the Qur'anic statement which describes the righteous people as those who pray:
"Rabba-na hab la-na min azwaji-na wa dhuriyyati-na qurrata a'yunin wa aj'al-na li al muttaqin imama"
"Our Lord! give us spouse and children who will be the joy of our eyes, and make us Leaders of the Righteous” (Sura 25-Al-Furqan Verse 74)Amen
A quote (hadeeth) by the Prophet Muhammed pbuh says:
اعمل لدنياك كأنك تعيش ابدا...واعمل لأخرتك كـأنك تموت غدا
Which translates to:
"Work in this life as if you'll never die...and work for the hereafter as if tomorrow will be your last day"
So in conclusion, how much effort we exert today regardless of the struggle will be paid off later on at some point of our life, as long as its something that's good, for the sake of Allah swt.
Posted by IMA at 6:35 AM