Marriage is a union of souls, in the deepest sense that Allah (God) joins these two souls together so that they may enjoy tranquility and stability in a marital home filled with sincere love and compassionate mercy.
Allah says in Quran
"Among His Signs Is That He Created Companion (Partner,Spouse) For You From Among Yourself, So That You May Find Tranquility With Them, And (He) Set Love And Mercy Between You. Surely In This Are Signs For People Who Reflect" (30:21).
The Necessity of Marriage from Youth
Allah created man in a manner that he is incomplete and imperfect without a spouse. Man may upgrade his knowledge, faith and excellencies, but he shall never reach the desired perfectness if he does not get a spouse. (Be it man or woman). Nothing can substitute marriage and the raising of a family. Male and female sexes need each other both from spiritual as well as physical points of view. And each of them is incomplete and imperfect when alone and in solitude. And when they get placed beside each other, they complete each other. This is the law of creation and it commands all the universe. The function of marriage and family is emphasized in the Quran in a number of ways.
At another place, the relationship between the spouses has been described as that between "the body and the garment"
{They are dress for you and you are dress (Libas in arabi) for them.} (Al-Baqarah 2: 187)
That is to say, they are the completive, counterpart, and the guard of each other's honour and secrets, and each one needs the other.
Marriage is one of the most important acts of worship in Islam.
Allah says in the Qur'an:
Marry off those amongst you who are not married (single or people who don't have a spoue) and marry those who are capable of marrying from your male and female slaves. If they are poor (then don't worry) Allah will enrich them out of His grace, Allah (God) is ample giving and All-knowing) . And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His Bounty (Chapter 24 Sura Noor, Verse 32-33)
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) has said:
“O young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.” [Saheeh al-Bukhari]
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) also said:
“Nikah (marriage) is my Sunna (tradtion). He who shuns (avoids, rejects) my Sunna is not of me.” (Muslim)
Wedding of Julaybib, the Prophet's companion
....Julaybib was an orphan, deformed and extremely short. He was brutally rejected by society because the people were more concerned with his physical appearance and status than integrity.
...In addition to his physical appearance, another important factor in his mistreatment had to do with his lineage. Lineage was an essential part in the Arab society he lived in, just as it is still important today in many cases. One's lineage determined his or her status in the society. His physical appearance, and unknown lineage, made people shun and spurn him. He was an outcast which caused him much public humiliation and disgrace.
...The Prophet went to a man of the Ansar and said:
"Give me your daughter for marriage."
The man answered excitedly, "Yes, O Messenger of Allah , it would be an honor and a blessing."
For which the Prophet said, "I do not want her for myself."
The Ansari man asked, "Then for whom, O Messenger of Allah?"
And the Prophet answered, "For Julaybib."
When the Ansari man heard this, he was shocked and said, "O Messenger of Allah, let me consult her mother." So he went to the girl's mother (his wife) and told her, "The Messenger of Allah is proposing marriage for your daughter."
The wife of the Ansari seemed overjoyed and said, "Yes, it would be a pleasure."
The Ansari explained to his wife that the Prophet was not proposing to marry their daughter for himself but he is proposing on behalf of Julaybib.
His wife was almost shaken and immediately responded, "What! Julaybib? No, by Allah, we will not marry her to him."
When the Ansari prepared to leave to meet the Messenger of Allah and mentioned to him his mother's disapproval, his daughter, a pious Muslim, asked her father, "Who is asking for my hand?"
Her mother told her that the Prophet was asking her hand on behalf Julaybib.
Their daughter instantly asked them, "Are you refusing to follow the command of the Messenger of Allah? Follow his command, for I will not come to any harm."
The following day the marriage was in place, Uthman and Ali, two of the Prophet's Companions, presented Julaybib a gift of money to help arrange the wedding reception, and to purchase necessary accommodation.
So the Prophet married the beautiful daughter of the Ansari to Julaybib who was once rejected by the whole society. The attitude of the daughter of the Ansari was that of a true believer.
The daughter's attitude shows her confidence of a Muslim woman who could not be influenced by the whims of the society. Unlike the parent's of today's world who are more concerned about status and money, her parents' reaction to her approval explains how Islam does not pressure a woman nor does it disregard her right to choose her husband.
Islam gave the happiness Julaybib deserved and he lived happily together with his beautiful wife until he was martyred.
....After a battle, the Prophet asked his Companions:
"Is anyone missing amongst you?"
They said: "So and so and so."
He asked them again: "Is there anyone missing amongst you?"
They answered: "So and so and so."
He asked them for the third time: "Is there anyone missing amongst you?"
They said: "No."
Thereupon the Prophet said:
"But I see that Julaybib is missing."
The Companions searched for him amongst those who had been killed and found him by the side of seven enemies whom he had killed. He had been killed. The Prophet came there and stood by his body and said:
"He killed seven people. Then his opponents killed him. He is mine and I am his."
He then placed him upon his hands and there was none else to lift him but the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).
Then the grave was dug for him and he was placed in it.
His life is an example and hope for human souls which are filled with desolation.
Reference: http://www.jannah.org , islamonline. net
Lessons from the story
Prophet Muhammad (SAW) advice regarding the choice of a spouse
The above story is the practical example of given Hadeeths.
The most comprehensive advice given regarding the choice of a spouse is the teaching of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) who said, on the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him),
"A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (pious) woman (otherwise) you will be losers." (Al-Bukhari, Book 62, hadith 27).
A Poor Pious Man is a Better Marriage Suitor than a Rich Man Who is Not Pious
Hadith - Bukhari 7.28,
Narrated Sahl A man passed by Allah's Apostle and Allah's Apostle asked (his companions) "What do you say about this (man)?"
They replied, "If he asks for a lady's hand, he ought to be given her in marriage; and if he intercedes (for someone) his intercessor should be accepted; and if he speaks, he should be listened to."
Allah's Apostle kept silent, and then a man from among the poor Muslims passed by, an Allah's Apostle asked (them)
"What do you say about this man?"
They replied, "If he asks for a lady's hand in marriage he does not deserve to be married, and he intercedes (for someone), his intercession should not be accepted; And if he speaks, he should not be listened to."
Allah's Apostle corrected the companions and said, "This poor man is better than so many of the first as filling the earth."
Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi #3090, Narrated Abu Hurairah, r.a.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption.' [Tirmidhi, Nasa'i and Ibn Majah]
As Muslims, we believe that Allah wants the best for us, and that His Prophet (saws) illustrated this through his own life. So note that by following the advise of our own Creator, and that of His beloved servant, we can only be successful.
Dua for bride and bridegroom
The Importance of a good wife to her husband (and of course vice versa) is Great to Allah (SWT).
Nothing can illustrate the point better than the Qur'anic statement which describes the righteous people as those who pray:
"Rabba-na hab la-na min azwaji-na wa dhuriyyati-na qurrata a'yunin wa aj'al-na li al muttaqin imama"
"Our Rabb! Make our Life Partners (spouse) and our Children to be the Comfort (joy) of our Eyes , and make us Leaders of the Righteous ...Sura 25 Al-Furqan Verse 74 Amen
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